November 25 is the International Day for the Elimination of Violence Against Women. It also marks the beginning of the international campaign of 16 Days of Activism for No Violence Against Women and Children that ends of December 10, which is the International Human Rights Day.
Throughout November, Her Vision will bring you stories on women who have suffered and triumphed over gender-based violence
Lily Awor had dreams of going to school, getting a job and then getting married to a loving man.
Unfortunately, the 39-year-old's dreams were shattered when she was abducted by the Lord's Resistance Army (LRA) and an old man about her father's age was forced on her as her husband.
In 1988, at just age 15, Awor was on her way from school to her village in Koch-Goma, Nwoya district when LRA rebels abducted her.
“We walked for several hours towards Sudan. I was carrying a load and by the time we stopped to rest, I was very exhausted and my feet were swollen,” Awor recalls.
While resting, the Ugandan army ambushed the group, killing many. Awor was shot in both knees. She was treated by LRA medicine men. She recovered after a year and another LRA fighter was imposed on her as her husband.
The leader of the team, Dr. Charles Otim, a consultant gynaecologist based at Mbale Hospital, said they discovered that many of the women are suffering pelvic inflammatory diseases caused by rape and prolonged labour. For women who have a problem of relaxation of the genitalia or birth canal is coming out caused by rape and genital fistula.
Awor was among the over 500 women who received treatment at the camp. Dr. Otim diagnosed that she has suffered a pelvic injury caused by prolonged labour and rape. “This caused chronic pelvic pain that she has had since 1990,” he said.
Dr. Otim adds that such pain prevents couples from having sex and it is a major cause of violence in homes.
He also learnt that Awor had suffered physical abuse from her husband because whenever she tried to deny the husband sex due to the pain, the husband would either engage in sex forcefully or batter her.
Awor confessed that they often fought with her husband when she said ‘no' to sex.
To keep her man and also avoid the physical and sexual pressures he inflicts on her when she declines – Awor is pregnant and she said she is still suffering pain.
After the examination – Dr. Otim gave Awor treatment, but also recommended she gets surgery on her pelvis. The surgery will be done at Lira Hospital, courtesy of Isis Women's International Cross Cultural exchange – that will be footing the bills of treatment.
A groundnut and sorghum and millet farmer – Awor and her husband could not afford the sh500, 000 demanded by so many health facilities to perform the surgery. They have less than a quarter acre of land and they have even failed to educate their eldest son beyond Senior Four – he has now dropped out.
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